ETHOS (Part 3): Boundaries | Jake Haber

In this raw and timely message—recorded on Mother’s Day and the third Sunday of our ETHOS series—we explore the sacred value of boundaries. While the word “boundaries” can sound harsh or isolating, this talk flips the script and reframes boundaries as an act of love, honesty, and spiritual alignment. We reflect on how true connection requires a deep understanding of self and a willingness to honor the uniqueness of others.

 

Drawing on personal stories, societal pressures, and the challenges of people-pleasing and perfectionism, Jake invites us to unpack how boundaries can be fluid, courageous, and essential to both individual wellbeing and authentic community. Whether you’re navigating family dynamics, spiritual growth, or simply trying to figure out what you’re able to give and receive, this message invites you to honor your energies, reimagine what connection means, and show up fully as yourself.

 

This one is honest and deeply life affirming; perfect for anyone ready to move beyond old scripts of self-sacrifice and step into a more sustainable, soul-aligned way of being.

 

Quotes:

 

1. Henri Nouwen:

   “Boundaries are not a dividing line, but a defining one. They mark where I end and you begin—and that is the only way real connection can occur.”

2. Gabor Maté:

   “When we’re not seen for who we really are, we begin to shape ourselves into what we think the world wants to see. And that’s the beginning of the false self — the root of codependency.”

3. Brené Brown:

   “Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others.”

4. Jake Woodard:

   “Taking responsibility for your own life is a beautiful act of self-respect. Letting others do the same is an act of respect for them.”

5. Parker J. Palmer:

   “True community is not about forcing sameness—it is about honoring difference while remaining connected.”

6. bell hooks:

   “We build beloved community by being honest with one another, not by pleasing one another.”

7. Alan Watts:

   “You’re under no obligation to be the same person you were 5 minutes ago.”